Diamond Platnumz demands no introduction. He has achieved a lot of success in the music industry. He has performed in concerts locally and abroad. He is an international superstar. However, Diamond Platnumz marriage remains a hot topic as the veteran bachelor defies expectations in the Tanzanian music scene.. I say so because most of his ilk have bid farewell to bachelorhood. They sacrificed the solitude of the elusive freedom for the stability of a marriage.
Diamond Platnumz often promised to join the ranks of the married, but when things began to get really hot, he scrambled for an excuse to delay it or throw a spanner in the works. I am now in a position to draw up what I call Diamond Platnumz’s romantic doctrine. This article reveals it through anecdotes. Here are his least-known narratives.
Diamond Platnumz, whose real name is Naseeb Abdul Juma, is a Tanzanian bongo flava artist, songwriter, dancer, and businessman. He was born on October 2, 1989, in Tandale, Dar es Salaam, Tanzania. Diamond Platnumz is one of the most influential and successful
musicians in East Africa, known for his unique blend of bongo flava, Afrobeat, and other genres. Diamond Platnumz is now 35 years old, an age many consider a ripe age for marrying.
Science, too, has been intrusive on this mystifying subject when it claims it is an age to have really healthy offspring. So, really Diamond Platnumz, who is a magnate of means, should have no excuse about marrying, but here is a sharp detour. There have been too many steamy innuendos leading to marriage, and in between, he has sired children with some of his loved ones. Now he has at least three known baby mamas, and more could be in the conveyor belt if what I am discerning in social media bears any credibility.
At the gist of Diamond’s walk to tying the knot lies what I call a character of being a mama’s boy. Mama’s boys are men who have failed to sever the umbilical link from their moms. Mama’s Boy ought to be understood in a Hollywood movie called “Psycho” (1960). This is a legendary horror flick whose main character, Norman Bates, is just too obsessed with his mom to the point of killing her by smashing a frying pan on her head. He was trying to get rid of her from his life so that he could declare his freedom. Little did he know her spirit possessed him. Even in death, Norman Bates’ mom continued directing his life in almost all walks! It was a violent demonic possession but nothing else, expounding why murdering women became his petty project of stopping them from replacing his spiritual mom. That mom was strictly an asexual mom, neither the incubus nor the succubus.
At night, he even dressed like his mom and was serially stabbing women to death who were coming to lodge in his motel. Although he killed his own mom, he couldn’t bear banishing her from his life by burying her, so he quickly self-taught himself taxidermy and preserved his mom in as humane form as he could possibly do. When he goes out, the inner voice of his spiritual mom keeps steering his life with an angry voice that reminds him he was dumb without her! Sometimes, he shouted her down, but she kept coming back angrier as if she was never dead! This is how Diamond Platnumz’s romantic doctrine should be understood.
Mom’s boy demeanour comes with its own restrictions and constricted sphere of displaying assertiveness. That manliness tends to be subdued. Since mom’s boy prefers not to lose his masculinity bragging rights, he plunges into steamy bonking sessions and becomes his shrubbery to hide his real psychological traumas. He is always dating very young women who are pretty and outgoing. In the beginning, everything looks like they are in Paradise, but as the relationship gets deeper and deeper, Mom’s boy feels his comfort zone has been invaded and assaulted. His next defensive mechanism automatically switches to express signs of contorted withdrawal symptoms. Those painful symptoms come naturally. He does not need to feign them. They are part of a complex reflex reaction.
How he extricates himself from a toxic relationship that has outlived its purpose, he foments nonexistent confrontations. These outbursts of emotions of rejection extrude in all sorts. Suppose he sees a loved one in a relationship squeezing him of his hard-earned cash; that proffers an opportunity to terminate that relationship summarily. A woman may be used to get his life expenses taken care of. All of a sudden, the bills are not cleared. She tries to contact him. He is nowhere near his phone, and he is not picking up her calls anymore, or he simply blocks her! The end is cold, bitter, and unassuming.
Her frantic efforts to reach him on his WhatsApp page are fruitless or sometimes accost even more lame excuses and bags of lies. The woman ultimately knows it must have been love on her side but on his side, he is just another player or an inveterate womanizer comfortable taking advantage of women’s low self-esteem to his lustful advantage. It is a bitter pill to swallow, but she knows how the game is played. She moves on after throwing a number of tantrums that do not change her pathetic predicament.
Diamonds Platnumz has often trumpeted his romantic doctrine, which is what he said; “….demu nikimchoka nampiga matukio hadi ataoondoka mwenyewe. Mimi simwambii ya kuwa simtaki ila yeye mwenyewe tu ataona….” That is Diamond Platnumz’s doctrine in romantic relationships: he fathoms unsolicited commotions and circus-like brinkmanship that will force his loved one to feel the heat and elope away from him. How did Diamond Platnumz get away with this?
He mostly looks for a rival to discourage the existing lover from staying on. This strategy worked for Wema Sepetu, Zari BosiLady, Tanasha, and many others. But this script finally has met its match in petite but recalcitrant Zuchu, of all gals! She has demonstrated patience, fortitude, and perseverance that defies logic and common sense. Zuchu, who else? Yes, I just said Zuchu!
Zuchu, whose full name is “Zuhura Othman Soud”, is a rising star in the Tanzanian music industry and one of the most prominent female artists signed under Diamond Platnumz’s “Wasafi Classic Baby (WCB)” label. She has quickly gained popularity for her unique voice, emotional lyrics, and ability to blend “Bongo Flava” with modern Taarab, Afrobeat and traditional Tanzanian sounds.
In public, Diamond Platnumz declared his unconditional love for Zuchu and apologised for whatever pain he had caused her. However, in private, Diamond Platnumz’s romantic doctrine is very much at work. Zuchu is like American Singer Taylor Swift. They both have perfected exorcising their romantic anguish through singing. They both write songs that reflect on how they have been faring in their love lives.
Since they talk unscripted in real life, fans have related to them. Fans see themselves through the prism of their songs. Their rhapsodic catharsis has become therapy for many of their fans. It enunciates why the duo has developed a religious following. If you demonize either of them, expect a litany of cyberbullying, slurs, and sometimes death threats.
Mom’s boy is attracted to older women who look like his mom and may later replace her! This is why mom’s boys tend to marry older women, implying they seek security and are more than willing to sacrifice elusive beauty. Mom’s boys distrust beauty because they perceive it will attempt to separate them from their wealth. Beauty signifies gold digging and nothing else. Even Diamond Platnumz’s past rhetoric supports this view, and this is what he said:
“……ningekuwa sina uwezo mngenipenda?” meaning those women are gold diggers. He has even written a song and sang it. Once he has profiled and stereotyped those women as they are only interested in grabbing something from his pockets, he cannot sincerely love them.
This is where the confusion begins and ends. To most women, sex is the climax of a romantic relationship, but to most men, it is just one form of communication. Most men do not deem sex as an expression of love, although they portray it as such to pressure women to relent to it. Most women fall to this gimmick only to discover later they have been conned. It leaves them with a bitter taste in their mouths. The expletives beginning and ending with “….I hate you…” are no longer misnomers.
Zuchu has been tested through this blistering pimple but has always prevailed with flying colours. She is what Kiswahili’s axiomatic wisdom stated as: “….ndege mjanja hunaswa na tundu bovu.” Could our lovely Zuchu play Diamond Platnumz to submission? Will Zuchu finally guide Diamond Platnumz to say, “I do..”? Or is she another statistic in Diamond Platnumz’s love life? Time will tell.
My premonition informs me that Diamond Platnumz will probably never marry because he is not that nubile. Those who believe in witchcraft have been attaching it to his wedding phobia, but I see it has nothing to do with it. Some men marry older women because they cling to their mom’s boy status. They feel threatened if they have to cast away this image of mom’s boy. It protects them, as Norman Bates felt in the horror movie PSYCHO.
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